Friday, May 18, 2018

Reset Your Expectations - Improve Your Life

I believe expectations are key factors related to our happiness or unhappiness. Unrealistic expectations, driven by a multi-billion dollar positive thinking industry and the advertising business, have created an environment of perpetual dissatisfaction.

Consider the following scenario.

My wife and I are going on vacation. Our respective expectations regarding the process of getting to our vacation destination could not be more opposed.

She has the more typical American expectation. She expects, demands, that everything go smoothly. She expects no traffic delays, no long security lines, and that the plane will leave on time. If everyone is behaving and just does their job correctly, as they should, all will be well. Her rosy outlook is reflected in her desire to leave for the airport quite a bit later than I.

I, on the other hand, characterized as the “voice of doom and gloom,” believe traffic will be delayed on the way to the airport, the security lines will be outrageously long, and the plane will not leave on time. My view is frowned upon in America. I am a negative thinker and that is thought of as wrong. Many people think my way of thinking is a malady that needs to be cured.

Let’s consider two possible outcomes.

First, everything goes bad. Traffic on the way to the airport is a nightmare. We arrive at the security line with less than an hour until boarding. The security line is insanely long and moving at a snail’s pace. We get to the gate with minutes to spare, only to discover our flight is delayed due to some vague mechanical issue.

My wife is in a foul mood. Nothing met her expectations. Nothing went the way it was supposed to. Her vacation is off to a rough start. I, on the other hand, while not overjoyed about events, feel it’s just par for the course. All my expectations have been met. While I dare not utter it, I have the satisfaction of an “I told you so” running in my mind.

Second, let’s assume everything goes perfect. There is no traffic to speak of. We arrive at security with plenty of time to spare, only to find there are no lines and we’re at the gate with more than an hour to kill. We have time to get lunch or, in my case, a bourbon or two. The plane is not delayed, in fact boarding goes so smoothly we actually leave a few minutes early (it happens).

My wife is in a great mood. Her vacation is off to a good start. Now she has the “I told you so” feeling coursing through her. While my prognostication was wrong, I am quite happy. Reality has wildly exceeded my expectations. My vacation is off to a great start.

In my opinion the more realistic expectation is the most advantageous. Acknowledging Murphy’s Law (anything that can go wrong will go wrong) allows you to feel better no matter the outcome. If all goes wrong, you’ve prepared for it (you left way too early according to the unrealistic - otherwise known as optimists) and reality met your expectations. The downside of reality has been minimized to the best of your ability. If, on the other hand, anything, or everything, goes right, your expectations have been exceeded - and that makes you happier than merely having expectations met.

The realist will have the downside minimized and either expectations met, or expectations exceeded. The unrealistic will either be miserable because expectations have not been met, or at best, will have expectations met.

Which do you think is better?

Reset your expectations. That’s my new tagline for this blog in 2018. In some cases, our bar is too low (the bar for our elected leaders certainly has dropped lately) and in other circumstances our expectations clearly ignore reality and are far too high. Pay attention to your expectations regarding life. Examine where they came from. Ignore most media depictions of how life should be and almost all advertising. Be realistic, it’s the key to your happiness.

Recycled from VoiceOfDoomAndGloom.com.

Monday, May 14, 2018

Good Article Regarding the Premature Obituary for Ebooks!

Ebooks are not dying. The problem is that the major publishing industry reporting outlets do not track them. Most eBook self-published authors don't bother with the expense of an ISBN number, so the traditional publishing world has no idea what is really going on.

From the article:

"Since 2015, major news outlets, including this one, have reported the triumphant return of print: that 'real' books are back, and ebooks have lost their gleam ... Of course, it’s not entirely true. Yes, ebooks are doing just fine: Americans consume hundreds of millions of them a year. But many of their authors are writing and publishing books, and finding massive audiences, without being actively tracked by the publishing industry. In fact, the company through which they publish and distribute their books, a tech behemoth disguised as a benevolent, content-agnostic retailer, is the only entity with any real idea of what’s going on in publishing as a whole.

'Honestly, Bowker’s numbers are completely useless,' says David Gaughran, a self-published author of historical fiction who blogs about the business of getting published on your own. 'They’re worse than useless, because they’re taken as reliable, and they’re not.'"

Read the entire article: https://qz.com/1240924/are-ebooks-dying-or-thriving-the-answer-is-yes/

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Back to Blogspot

It's been a long time since I posted something here. I saw an article about moving your site to https because it will be marked as "Not Secure," rather prominently, as of July 1st if you didn't. It appears, though I do have to do more research, that switching to SSL on GoDaddy is not only somewhat expensive, but also not so simple. I did find out though, that Blogger, Wordpress.com, Wix and Squarespace are all ready to go with https. So, I may switch back to this platform, where I started 12 or so years ago.